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Showing posts with label quotes. Show all posts
Showing posts with label quotes. Show all posts
Friday, August 30, 2013

WHEN LOVE BECOMES SOMETHING YOU FALL INTO...


Just stumbled upon a very meaningful quote.  photo gdaydream_zps078d5378.gif

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
Let our scars fall in love.” 
― Galway Kinnell 
Tuesday, June 04, 2013

MY CARNIVOROUS ISLAND


"No one has seen that island since, and you'd never read about those trees in any book. And yet, if I hadn't found those shores I would have died, if I hadn't discovered that tooth I would have been lost alone forever. Even when God seemed to have abandoned me, he was watching. Even when He seemed indifferent to my suffering, He was watching and when I was beyond all hope of saving... He gave me rest and gave me a sign to continue my journey...."-- Pi Patel, Life of Pi

                 I was once told that God gives us burdens in life because He knows too well that we can triumph over them. And that the heavier the cross you carry, the stronger person you are. So when you feel life’s beating you so hard, it only means He trusts you that much.
            There are times when it seems like He just keeps on presenting us one adversity after another, testing the limits of our faith and pushing us beyond our fortitude. And as humans, it is not easy not to lose hope, not to waver in believing, and not to be tired of fighting when we’re confronted by ostensibly never-ending hardships, that we sometimes wonder if God still sees us and cares for us. Because if He does, why would He allow us to suffer too much?
            I think it is safe to say that I have had my “fair” share of trials, with pains and tears plaguing my every battle. And I’d be honest in saying that there were moments when I thought of giving up, to just let myself be drowned in fear, despondency, and frustration. But despite this, I have always felt His loving guidance, and have always known in my heart that He’s been there all along, watching me closely. It was just me who failed to acknowledge the strength He has provided me with.
            Now that I'm going through another storm, although it may seem ironic, I can feel that He has let this be my "rest," which I do have to move on from after. I know, whatever headwinds I have yet to conquer, He will always find a way to show me that He will always be there. I just have to have greater faith in Him. photo amen.gif 

Monday, January 28, 2013

IN MY BOOK: THE DEVIL AND MISS PRYM by Paulo Coelho


Many a writer has flair for weaving stories that can make his readers think then leave them as is, but only few can make his readers think deeper and bring forth a life-cultivating judgment afterwards. Brazilian author Paulo Coelho – laying claim to million-copy international best-selling titles – undeniably belongs to these few. His novel The Devil and Miss Prym is but a testament to that.
 
The Devil and Miss Prym is the third and final book in the And on the Seventh Day trilogy, which focuses on stories of ordinary people as they struggle with issues about love, death, and power. It lets us be proverbial flies on the walls of Viscos – an ostensibly remote village with good inhabitants – as it suddenly receives a visit from “the devil” who brings with him a temptation.
 
Long on eye-opening parables and thought-provoking quotes, this novel will make you reflect on your Good and Evil sides, their differences, and the situations during which the two collide. It also latches on to human beings' fear when it comes to realizing their goals and dreams, thus providing some sense of inspiration to those currently saddled with their inhibitions.  
The Devil and Miss Prym may at times bother its reader, making itself a not "unputdownable" book. But that's definitely in a good way. photo wink.gif

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QUOTABLE QUOTES
                “There are two things that prevent us from achieving our dreams: believing them to be impossible or seeing those dreams made possible by some sudden turn of the wheel of fortune, when you least expected it.”
                “So you see, Good and Evil have the same face; it all depends on when they cross the path of each individual human being.”
                “I’ve just taught you the most important lesson in life. Whenever you want to achieve something, keep your eyes open, concentrate and make sure you know exactly what it is you want. No one can hit their target with their eyes closed.”
                “There are two kinds of idiots: those who don’t take action because they have received a threat, and those who think they are taking action because they have issued a threat.”
                “Playing the part of a charitable soul was only for those who were afraid of taking a stand in life. It is always far easier to have faith in your own goodness than to confront others and fight for your rights. It is always far easier to hear an insult and not retaliate than have the courage to fight back against someone stronger than yourself; we can always say we’re not hurt by the stones others throw at us, and it’s only at night – when we’re alone and our wife or our husband or our school friend is asleep – that we can silently grieve over our own cowardice.”
Sunday, November 25, 2012

SO TRUE!


Got this off a book I stumbled on in a bookstore the other day. Yeah, hooray for books with no plastic cover that always pick my curiousity! I did not take note of the book's title, but I'm quite sure the author's a Filipino. Just thought of sharing it here.
 

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Thursday, March 08, 2012

UNTITLED


The race is not to the swift
or the battle to the strong,
nor does food come to the wise
or wealth to the brilliant
or favor to the learned;
but time and chance happen to them all.
--Ecclesiastes 9:11
Saturday, January 28, 2012

SOMETHING TO PONDER: LEVELING UP PROFESSIONALLY

Unless you don't give two hoots about profound things in life, you probably have heard of so-called "dangers of complacency." Experts define it as "excessive comfort coupled with a lack of urgency to address issues or areas that need improvement and growth." We, however, need not be experts to know that they lurk in almost every aspect of our lives: interpersonal relationships, academic performance, workplace standing, inborn talents, and acquired skills, just to cite a few. To acknowledge this "threat" then is but imperative to keep ourselves from lagging behind.

A few months after getting off the track, here I am getting into the groove of things again. Up to this day, I still can't quite believe that I opted out of the competition that had pitted me against myself, and instead chose to hibernate. It was never my intention to make it this long (imagine, five months!) though, but I guess the idea is not to dwell much on the bad side. This break has nonetheless afforded me the time to know myself better and be stronger in the process.

As I see a new beginning in the offing, I believe it is high time for me to step up and move forward. Yet I thank that moment when I felt my complacency about my work taper off, for I would never realize what it is that I really wanted had I not. Indeed, I am the one responsible for my own professional maturity.

In light of this, I am posting this article from US News that enumerates several ways on how one will be able to take control of his professional growth, necessitating only a considerable amount of time and effort of course.

Take Charge of Your Professional Development
by Alexis Grant, US News

It's easy to get complacent about professional development when you're employed. If you already have a job, why should you go above and beyond to improve your skills, especially if it's not required by your company?

But making an effort to help yourself grow professionally will help you succeed, both in the short term and in the long term. And if you don't learn new skills and acquire new knowledge and experience, you're likely to fall behind your peers, which could be detrimental when you look to change positions.

"If you don't [focus on professional development], you won't be marketable in your field in five years," Alexandra Levit, author of New Job, New You: A Guide to Reinventing Yourself in a Bright New Career, wrote in an email. "In this [employment] climate, you always have to be looking ahead to what is going to be required in your potential next role."

Levit recommends focusing on transferable skills that are relevant across a variety of industries and positions. That way, even if you can't use them now, they'll likely come in handy later.

Taking charge of your professional development has become even more important since the recession, because some companies no longer have the funds to help employees grow beyond their basic duties. And since employees tend to have shorter stays with companies than they did years ago, companies may not see the value in training an employee they could lose. Of course, employee-retention experts say that's exactly why companies should offer professional development: because it helps them keep and cultivate their best talent.

"Companies have less resources to do professional development because as they've cut back, everybody's down to muscle and bone," says Rusty Rueff, career and workplace expert at Glassdoor.com, a website that offers insight into careers and companies. "You have to take control of your own development ... and find ways to make it happen."

Here are 10 ways to help yourself grow professionally even without the support of your company:

1. Take a class. Just because you're no longer in school doesn't mean the classroom is off-limits. Plenty of universities offer classes for adults, often in the evening so you can attend around your job schedule. Online classes are another convenient option. Take a class on a topic that's relevant for your job, or learn about something that's totally unrelated for a change of pace. Either way, you're growing, which is the over-arching goal.

2. Teach yourself a skill. You don't always need structure or a class to learn something new. Pinpoint skills that are desirable in your line of work, and start practicing. Website-building or social-media skills are a perfect example, and they're desirable across the board. Jump into a project, and learn the ropes as you go.

3. Volunteer. "Because [nonprofit] organizations are so hungry for hands," Levit says, "you'll get the opportunity to master leadership skills you might not have the chance to practice otherwise." And, she adds, "you'll be doing it in a real-world environment, which makes the experience better than if you, for example, took coursework or training seminars."

4. Master an online tool. Even those of us who organize our lives via digital tools don't always make the most of them. The Web is full of free video tutorials on how to use networks like LinkedIn and Google+, as well as tips on organizing your Gmail life. Think about how you can increase your efficiency, and scour the Internet for resources to help you accomplish that.

5. Seek out people who are on the career path you aspire to. Ask them how they got to where they are. With a little effort on social media, Rueff says, you can easily find out who holds a certain position--or who used to hold it--and reach out to them. Especially if you stroke their ego a bit, people are often happy to talk about the path they took in their career, as well as what worked and what didn't. Learn from their successes and mistakes.

6. Shadow a colleague. Find workers within your company who do something you want to learn, and stop by their office occasionally to ask questions, Rueff suggests. You don't need an official shadowing program to accomplish this, just your own initiative. "You will learn a lot by listening and watching, and a little bit by osmosis," he says.

7. Find a mentor. Take that find-a-successful-person goal one step further and identify someone who's willing to give you guidance and advice. Even if you don't feel comfortable calling that person a mentor, having someone to run ideas by who has more experience than you can go a long way toward helping you make the right decisions. The key here is that they have to have an interest in helping you.

8. Read. Devour books and articles and blogs within your niche, but also pick reads that are outside of your normal professional box, Rueff says. "Read things that are outside of your own industry and experience, and then stop and think about, how can I relate that and apply it to my business?" he says.

9. Attend a conference. Figure out which conference is most worthwhile for people who work in your target industry and go, even if it means using vacation time. Not only will you learn new skills, you'll also make new contacts. Emily Bennington, who helps new college graduates transition from the classroom to the workplace, advises researching who's going and connecting with those people on social media before the event, so you can arrange an in-person meeting and facilitate a stronger connection.

10. Don't neglect your "soft skills." Most of us know our weaknesses, whether we need to be more organized or do a better job of meeting deadlines or simply prioritizing in a smarter way. Putting effort into improving those skills will make you more marketable no matter what field you're in, says Joseph Grenny, an organizational-development expert and co-author of Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Success.

"Don't do it for your boss," Grenny says. "You're doing this for you."


Wednesday, January 11, 2012

THE MATH OF LIFE


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Tuesday, December 20, 2011

DAY 9: MY FAVORITE QUOTES FROM THE PHANTOM TOLLBOOTH

I know I would never be able to come across this great and enormously influential (personally speaking) novel if it were not because of a dear friend who was generous enough to send me an ebook version of The Phantom Tollbooth earlier this year (indeed, thank you, Cath!Photobucket). Curiously, I was made into one of its lucky readers and fans exactly half a century after the book was first published. See, it is never too late to discover wonderful things.

For me, The Phantom Tollbooth is all about appreciation of the world around us and knowing what really matters in life. Anyone would surely love and enjoy the allegories and the jokes peppered throughout the novel. Also, following the story of Milo and his trusted friend Tock as they make a tour from Doldrums to the Forest of Sight to the Valley of Sound and up to the Castle in the Air, meeting new friends and valuable experiences along the way, is like traveling to one's own enlightenment. This is truly a must-read for children of all ages.

I don't have a thorough review of the book. But what I have below is a list of my favorite The Phantom Tollbooth quotes.approve


"What you can do is often simply a matter of what you will do." -- Princess of Pure Reason

"So many things are possible as long as you don't know they're impossible." -- King Azaz, Mathemagician

"Think of all the trouble it saves ... If you only do the easy and useless jobs, you'll never have to worry about the important ones which are so difficult. You just won't have the time. For there's always something to do to keep you from what you really should be doing...." -- Trivium, on being a monster of habit.

"You must never feel badly about doing mistakes... as long as you take the trouble to learn from them. For you often learn more by being wrong for the right reasons than you do by being right for the wrong reasons." -- Princess of Pure Reason

"...But it's not just learning things that's important. It's learning what to do with what you learn and learning why you learn things at all that matters." -- Princess of Sweet Rhyme

"Whatever we learn has a purpose and whatever we do affects everything and everyone else, if even in the tiniest way. Why, when a housefly flaps his wings, a breeze goes around the world; when a speck of dust falls to the ground, the entire planet weighs a little more; and when you stomp your foot, the earth moves slightly off its course. Whenever you laugh, gladness spreads like ripples in a pond; and whenever you're sad, no one anywhere can be really happy. And it's much the same thing with knowledge, for whenever you learn something new, the whole world becomes that much richer. And remember also that many places you would like to see are just off the map and many things you want to know are just out of sight or a little beyond your reach. But someday you'll reach them all, for what you learn today, for no reason at all, will help you discover all the wonderful secrets of tomorrow." -- Princess of Sweet Rhyme

"...There's a lot to see everywhere, if only you keep your eyes open." -- Alec Bings

"A sound which is not heard disappears forever and is not to be found again." -- writer, one of the marchers at the Valley of Sound

"A slavish concern for the composition of words is the sign of a bankrupt intellect." -- Humbug

"While it is wrong to use too few (words), it is often far worse to use too many." -- Faintly Macabre

"You see the way you see things depends a great deal on where you look at them from." -- Alec Bings

"Being lost is never a matter of not knowing where you are; it is a matter of not knowing where you aren't." -- Alec Bings


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Wednesday, November 09, 2011

BOYS, GIRLS, AND THE APPLE TREE

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Tuesday, October 25, 2011

AGAIN, YOU CAN DO IT!




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YOU CAN DO IT!

Thursday, June 16, 2011

SOMETHING TO PONDER: RESISTANCE (or whatever this word is tantamount to)

I think it's just human nature that we sometimes get caught up in our lives and can't get through our "walls," making us unconsciously sidestep the things we should really attend to. It is during this phase that we, albeit it may appear otherwise, rush into deciding on things, particularly in saying "no."

A few months ago, I felt my heart was on the turn. My work did not seem as fulfilling as it had been before. It felt like I was on the wrong boat, rowing against the waves but instead found that my boat had become too small for me that I felt uncomfortable and did not opt to move at all. In a nutshell, I was at my most lackadaisical (come on, look it up) state.

Something in me kept on badgering that I need to acknowledge my situation and take an action. But instead of making a step out of this drawback, I took solace in back-burnering. Uncertain of what I really wanted to do next, I resisted to step up.

Now, I know that the tables have turned. Though I'm still on the same boat, I realized that in order to get hold of the larger one, I must first learn how to take advantage of "my small boat" and safely bring myself to the shore where I could have the chance to see how far that "small boat" has brought me. And I will just take my next steps from there.

I know we have our own way of dealing with our own "walls." But I guess for me that's how it goes. Though different approaches compute with different people, it would always help one to know what kind of career-related challenge he is facing, what it is he is resisting. In light of this, I'm posting an online article from global online employment solution Monster.com tackling this very thing.

What's Holding You Back in Your Career?
By Ian Christie, Monster Contributing Writer

Is there some task or project you've been doing your creative best to avoid working on? I'll bet there is. But instead of wasting mental energy worrying about it, you can learn to overcome your resistance and tackle important, high-value tasks quickly and efficiently so that whatever your goals, you'll move forward faster. Here's how.

Identify What You're Resisting

If you're looking for a job, maybe you're dragging your feet over networking or practicing your interview skills. On the job, perhaps you're putting off calling that unhappy customer or having a difficult conversation about an employee's performance. Or maybe you're hesitating over taking the first steps toward kicking off that career change you've been contemplating.

Decide How Important the Task Is

Ask yourself where the task or project you're avoiding fits into your roles, responsibilities and goals.

* Are You Avoiding Something You Should Be Doing? We most commonly resist tasks vital to success in our job, job search or career change. Such resistance holds us back from getting what we want.

One of my job search clients was the perfect example. Feeling shy about selling herself and fearing rejection, this client had put off following up on referrals she had gathered from friends. After I held her accountable for making those calls, some of those initial leads led to informational interviews, further referrals and an eventual job.

If you typically avoid repetitive or administrative tasks, like filling out expense reports, following up on customer-service surveys or replying to emails, delegate them or get them done another way before they become bigger issues.

For example, a self-employed client had neglected to do his books or file his taxes for four years. At first, he didn't see his financials as important. By the time he realized otherwise, the problem had become too big for him to tackle alone.
* Are You Avoiding Something You Shouldn't Be Doing? If you repeatedly resist doing tasks that are central to your job, you might have a bigger and different problem altogether.

Another client who had recently been transferred into a sales role resisted making her sales calls. We soon discovered the real issue -- that she was in the wrong job. Happily, she was able to transfer into a more suitable account management role. If this scenario sounds familiar, determine whether your resistance is really due to poor job fit.

Understand Why You're Resisting

Common reasons include lack of clarity about the next step, poor work habits, operating out of your comfort zone and fear. If you understand the root cause of your resistance, you can start to do something about it. Use these techniques:

* Work within a structure. For example, use the first hour of your day (before even checking email) to tackle whatever you're resisting.
* Determine the next, specific action, and do it.
* Break daunting work into small steps. Start the first step now.
* Overcome fear, inertia or shyness by putting your resistance in perspective. The importance of your job search, earning a living or performing well in your position far outweigh any real or imagined consequences that could result from these reasons for resisting.

Of course, resistance can be a good thing if taking immediate action could have negative consequences. Say you're angry about how your manager treats you, and you want to get that anger off your chest. Spouting off to the boss the first chance you get could jeopardize your living. Instead, find a safer way to vent, like confiding in a friend. Then develop strategies to address the real problem.

Hold Yourself Accountable


A career counselor would ask you to identify the things you're resisting, why they're important, and then hold you accountable for getting them done or taking them off your list. But you can answer to yourself. Following this system will train you to identify and tackle the important jobs in your life. Master this, and you'll dramatically increase your personal and professional performance.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

LETTING GO. LETTING GOD.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

1 NEW MESSAGE

I've been receiving daily "love quotes" from 2375 for quite sometime now (constantly followed by "Ang Libre Mong Tone This Week" from 2366), even without subscribing to the free service. I do have the choice to make it stop but I opted not to, simply because, ya know, anyway it's free and it's about love, haha, and the "sender" never fails to make me feel I'm being remembered every day between 9-10:30 a.m.Photobucket By the way, it's quarter to 10 a.m. now, and let me just check coz my cellphone has just alerted me for a new message. Voila, it's from 2375! I'm not surprised.

I chose not to delete some that somehow touched my heart (pfui!) and for the fun of it, I have them below:

Maybe some friendships aren't meant to be saved. Maybe we're meant to spend a certain part of our life with certain people... and then move on.

There are many beautiful, charming and wonderful men and women here on earth. It's just a matter of who you get to meet along the way and who you choose to end up with for the rest of your life.

For someone who is supposed to be "just a friend," why do I always get butterflies in my stomach when you smile at me?

When the door of happiness closes, another opens. But oftentimes, we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.


Finding out that the more you try to hate him, the more you end up loving him, perhaps even more than before.

It is true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it. But it is also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.


There are millions of people in this world, but in the end it all comes down to one.

It's amazing how you easily fall in love with someone who simply smiles, talks and stares at you. The only hard thing to do is to make that person fall for you.

Love is true when you can't always see eye to eye, but you always walk hand in hand.


Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back. Don't expect love in return. Just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.
Wednesday, October 06, 2010

A QUOTABLE QUOTE

I really liked this quote from a very good read Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert and thought that it was worth mentioning in a blog topic, perhaps about love or the like, but I haven't been much in a lovey-dovey mood of late (and just decided that I don't really want to be). But for the sake of having it posted -- which it rightfully deserves given the enlightenment it has given me about this so-called 'soulmate' -- I'll have it here anyway.

"...Your problem is you don't understand what that word means. People think a soulmate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soulmate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soulmate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soulmates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it. Your problem is, you just can't let this one go. It's over, Groceries. David's purpose was to shake you up, drive you out of that marriage that you needed to leave, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you had to transfrom your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master and beat it. That was his job, and he did great, but now it's over. Problem is, you can't accept that this relationship had a real short shelf life. You're like a dog at the dump, baby -- you're just lickin' at an empty tin can, trying to get more nutrition out of it. And if you're not careful, that can's gonna get stuck on your snout forever and make your life miserable. So drop it." -- Richard from Texas

I never would have thought a soulmate to be likened with a mirror had I not read this valuable piece of advice given to Groceries (that was how Richard from Texas called Liz back when they were still in this unnamed ashram in India). A soulmate, simply put, reflects what's inside us. He or she does not always correspond to someone of romantic value. And I guess it's all true, after all...

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